Tuesday, March 31, 2020

Spooky




Vanaja lost her husband very early. She lived with her brother and his family. I think she was not treated well. She used to do all household work. She used to drink tea a lot and always in the little kitchen. They had 2 kitchens at that time, one big and one small in a village. When she died, some one got the asthi (ashes) home but instead of keeping outside the house on the top of the roof, brought it inside the house (some said that was the mistake). Some believe from that time onwards Manda, Vanaja's niece started acting wierd. She started talking like her Athya (Father's sister who is dead now). She started to go into little kitchen a lot and used to make & drink a lot of tea. They took her to doctor several times thinking she has become mentally ill. But whenever she went there the doctor declared she is alright and has no mental problems ( she behaved and talked fine in the doctor's office). At home she was a pain. Yelling, throwing things, abusing, drinking lot of tea etc.especially amavasya and full moon days.   
  One day whole family in the house went for a wedding overnight, leaving her locked in the house. They asked one of the farmer to sleep outside the house to guard. In the middle of the night he saw a female coming out of the house and then entering the house without opening the door (door was locked, and you know how olden days doors are -heavy).  He freaked out and left the place in horror and told the whole episode to the family.  People thought that she was possessed with 'Brahma Rakshashi' ( this kind will never leave until taking the life of the possessed ).

My meeting with Manda - I was small, may be 11 years. We went to the village for a wedding ceremony . We then stayed in Manda's house. The house was HUGE - huge backyard etc. I met Manda there when I was going around the house. Manda smiled at me and gestured me to come very sweetly. I followed her since no one had told me about her before and she took me to the small kitchen. She then asked me if I want some tea. I said no. She constantly kept asking me the same question over and over again. I got scared and I left the place telling her that I will come back later. My heart was beating as I ran to my mom. Next day again I saw her, she gestured to come but I did not go. She was very sweet and kind to me at that time.

Later I heard the story that when she was angry she was uncontrollable. She did not like rats, so she used to chase and catch them with bare hands and kill them. In the process she used to lift huge sack of grain ( that only a strong man could lift on his back with difficulty) in one hand and threw aside to get sight of rat/s.  Three days before she was about to die, she already knew it. She started mumbling 'I will die, I will die'. She ran all over the house scared of something during that time. Then she felt as if she was trapped in one room , where they(family) locked her too and lost her life the third day. That was surprising to all in the house. Ultimately they lost Manda and it coincided with what people predicted about Brahma rakshasi.  This story brought chill to my spine when I heard it the first time because I had met her before in that village at the very same kitchen.

Any thoughts?

Tuesday, November 20, 2018

2018 Thorndale Diwali Feedback




2018 Thorndale Diwali Feedback

Disclaimer: These are purely suggestions , mine or heard from others,  and open for discussion for improvements. Please do not take this as harsh comments on anyone or anything. I am open to our group decision. These are just points to note while planning next time. Not all can be done due to limited resources. We should always start with a good target, so that we keep doing better. Thanks.

Project Management/ Co-ordinator:
1. Change the title to Co-ordinator. The co-ordinator should form a 4 member team to take final decision on all matters.
2. Once we assign lead to specific activity, the lead is responsible to make that happen, not the project manager. The lead should form a team to support his/her activity.
3. We shld have deadline to finalize plans, purchase etc. Co-ordinator maintain deadline and only followup status before deadline.
4. Ladies should be included in the organizing as well.
5. We shld plan Diwali event 2 months in advance.
6. Distribution of responsibility is a key to success. Every member who wish to see improvement and maximum enjoyment, should participate in the plan and take up role and responsibity.
7. This is a closed community event, not a public event , so preference must be given to members of the community , their relatives , past members of the community and finally to very close friends, better if they are totally outside of Lansdale area ( Friends who are close to community must be approved by the team). There are other implications by making this an open event that must be carefully evaluated before we allow.

Event Management:
1. One lead and form a team of anchors that take the audience through the entire event.
2. The schedule must be final before the day of. There is always last min changes on the day of event that should be avoided which creates confusion in the event.
3. Cultural item participants should be made aware of their turn, this is very important to maintain the sequence and schedule and not do changes at the event. This will cause confusion for the anchors that need on the spot management and handling of difference of opinions.
4. print or display schedule to all audience.
5. Plan kids activity BEFORE the start of the event to keep them engaged until event starts. This must be fun activity with awards, so that people will plan to come on time because kids will force them. Eg. Kahoot cld have been before the start of the event.
6. Should not plan games that require full attention of audience and time to play the game. The games if planned must be ACTION based to keep audience engaged. Also action based game should not require too much time to setup during the event ( eg. 1 min game could become 10 mins just to get that 1 min of fun with props).
7. Guage time and notify if it is unachievable.
8. Talk to people early and get information about the planned performances.

Anchoring: None of the below happened , they are just points to keep in mind.
1. They must be responsible to lead the event through the planned sequence.
2. They should take full control of the mike and not let someone else take charge and change the track of the event. Must take control of the sequence.
3. We need to include secondary anchors and train them as well. Use them wherever possible during the event.


Decoration:
1. Decoration team lead must form decoration team. This team must include men and are responsible for decorations on the event day. Helpers can be added.
2. Consider older kids to give a helping hand. They get sense of involvement in the making.
3. The lead must facilitate ideas and estimate cost and convey to finance.
4. Decoration should include Lighting Diya activity which is the very essence of Diwali culture. ( It need not have idol if not desired, but lighting lamp has a significance).

Budget/Finance:
1. I like the way finance and budget is handled with transperancy and efficiency. Continue to do that. One lead is good enough.

Photography:
1. Using stage to do family photography may not work since it conflicts with the performance. Must have a separate area for family pictures.
2. Group photography needs proper arrangement of people standing, sitting etc. by volunteers.
3. Photography needs an equally talented backup to eliminate burden on one person and alternate the task during event. So that the photographer can also enjoy the event peacefully.
4. Form a photography team, not just one person. Can include older kids. Older kids will get that experience as helpers and sense of involvement, instead of doing thier own thing.

Videography:
1. Again this cannot be one person, like photography, need an equally talented backup and team to help. One person is not acceptable. Or hire a third pary to do just that which may not be affordable.
2. The video was so close to the stage and stagnant. Did not cover entire stage sometimes. It may be not possible to do movable video. But may be done by a dedicated videography helpers taking turns.
3. People must respect photographer and videographer of their immense effort irrespective of minor mistakes. We have to remember that they sacrifice their peaceful enjoyment time to completely inveolved in capturing moments.
4. Photographer and videographer must make their best judgement of lighting and make changes appropriately or request for more or less lighting.

Audio:
1. Audio lead was handling audio completely solo this time. He or she must have the backup and take break to enjoy as an audience.
2. Consider audio lead need not be sitting constantly in audio area, but shld be able to control remotely via iphone instead of laptop. We did the same last year, and it worked out well.
3. Only during DJ time, should the dj be at the audio location.

Stage:
1. No kids allowed to be wandering on the stage. Parents or big kid volunteers must take care of this. It comes in videos and photoes that do not look good.
2. Kids wandering on the stage during performances is risky. No one should be allowed passing by the stage, except Anchors.

Purchase:
1. Purchasing was done last minute this time. The purchase lead must be reponsible to get enough information to fulfil the purchase well in advance, by working with finance.
2. Decoration items, Return gifts to family, awards, gifts to kids etc must be decided and ordered 2 weeks in advance and must be purchased.

Food drive/charity:
1. The initiative went well this time. But we should get older kids do some activities regarding this.

Audience:
1. Audience participation was a little lacking this time.
2. Lot of them were busy in discussion in groups during performances and not enough encouragements  and cheering from audience.
3. Audience must applaud and cheer for all performances, since lot of effort has been put in for entertaining audience.
4. When the performance is going on, need to maintain silence.
5. Kids need to be controlled and ask them to participate as audience.
6. Must be considerate with people who are unable to get visibility of the performances.

Food:
1. Veg Appetizers was bit spicy for kids. Need some kid friendly items.
2. Non veg was good.
3. Mango lassi was not great.
4. Overall food was good, because it is always relatively judged according to people's taste.


Memories:
1. We should have a website or closed area where all thorndalians can view past diwali event posts, photoes, videos, plan etc in one place.
2. This central repository will revoke pleasant memories after 5 or 10 years down the line. We will see our small kids performing when they grow older and us performing when we were young. Also our kids will remember these and can look at it any time.
3.  The central repository with different years, single link having links to youtube or google photoes would be acceptable.
4. We can give this project to our interested kids too as a side project to learn website building.







Monday, March 19, 2012

What you want to be when you grow up ?

         Its funny that I still ask this question to myself. Everyday life presents with choices and one chooses the path that most suits his/her present idea of what he/she wants to be when he/she grows up. When I was young, the first time my dad asked me this question, I think I said 'Policeman'. My dad asked, "why policeman? ",  I said, "I like their costume".  Well, I changed my mind when me and my family moved to India. Growing up, I was exposed to computers, and that's when I decided to be a computer engineer. But am I doing justice to the career I chose ?  While I still love my current role as a software architect/engineer, being able to develop software that changes lives of people, I still believe that there is also something else that I love to do and could be more happier.  At this point in career, no looking back, since this is now my bread winner and a family supporter.
          I believe most people, if not all, think or feel about this, the same way at different intensity. I keep seeing and hearing people changing careers late in their life or venture into own business. So far I have never encountered anyone being 100% excited about his/her current job in my field ( Software development ). When I ask, "What is that you like to do the most" to most people, amazingly almost everyone said that given a second chance, he/she would love to do something completely different from their current job/work.  When I watch  interviews of a successful artists  like movie actors or singers etc. in TV, I hear a lot of passion and love towards their work. I often ask myself, why can't I be like them ? How can I be passionate of my job, unless it offers me to pursue my hobby or interests at work? 
         I feel it is nothing like loving your work you do. I think, following are cases when you love your job,
  • Work is inline with your hobby
  • You have an excellent idea at work that is recognized
  • You have financial interest in the job you are doing, like big bonus, own business etc.
  • You like someone at work :-) Really?
  • I can't think of any more reasons, any suggestions ?
 I think kids at young age should be frequently asked this burning question growing up, so that they sub-consiously think about what they love to do forever, earlier in their life and could take right decision at the right time. Most parents in or from India ( from my experience), influence or push their kids in their career choice. This is ok but its very important to learn their kid's potential and passion early on and give them a chance to live it. BTW, when I ask my 4 year old son, he says he wants to be a Spiderman, who helps people with his strength and he feels that way,  though his physique is like he would fly with the direction of wind let alone saving others :-).
You must have felt the same atleast at some point at your job. So what did you do to overcome this?
Please share your thoughts by adding your comments below. I would love to hear what you think.